About 7 months ago I created a private Facebook group for women who are taking a stand against anxiety and depression. I love this group of women! These are believers who are fighting battles and believing to experience freedom. I see them pour their hearts out, fill up, and pour out encouragement onto others. It’s a beautiful picture of real people walking through real life and just keepin’ it real. Beautiful.
The other day my friend, whom I’ve connected with through Facebook and through a shared journey of anxiety and depression, reached out to our group for encouragement. I asked her could I post our conversation here and she said, “Totally fine with me as long as it’s helpful for others”. I wanted you to be able to get a glimpse of hope. I wanted you to see an overcomer in action! I wanted you to see her perspective shift in a matter of minutes. I hope this encourages you by letting you know you’re not alone, you’re not isolated in your mental battles, and other people do understand … but even more so – I want you to know that Jesus is our mighty healer. We can experience true freedom through a relationship with him.
If you’d like to join our facebook group – please message me on FB and ask me to add you. We’d love to have you join. https://www.facebook.com/aprildextrous
Hello ladies, if I may ask for a prayer request from you all. just not doing too well again. been barely making it through each day. my anxiety is causing me so much distress, and I am taking medication too! Every day I have this tension in my body. This tightness in my chest that makes it feel like I am breathing so shallow. I know it’s the anxiety because it only happens when I start to feel overwhelmed or stressed and lately it’s been very stressful again. Work is becoming too overwhelming again, with people out left and right they are forcing me to do the work of 3 people. And even if I do only what I am able, the atmosphere alone stresses me out. On top of that I’ve had to move back in with my family ever since I lost my apartment 3 months ago, and let me say, my family and I don’t get along well. It’s not that we fight. I know they love me very much. But they are extremely critical of me. Impatient with my anxiety. They want me to just “be normal” and “turn it off” as they would say. So I feel like a complete outcast constantly. And I hide in my room because the minute I come out, I hear the never ending commenting about this or that or how I’m doing this wrong or how I should be trying harder to get well. It’s do discouraging. It makes me feel like any progress I’ve made is discounted and now I feel as though I am relapsing because of this. I’m getting the panic attacks again and I’m crying a lot more every night because I’m so frustrated with myself. I want to be normal so that they would just get off my back. I feel like I have no place to rest. I go to work and it’s crazy and I come home and it’s crazy. I so badly wish I had the means to move out again but as of right now I don’t. and I probably won’t for at least 6 months. I feel incredibly depressed that I can’t just be myself around everyone. That they can’t just be patient instead of pushing me constantly. A little pushing out of my comfort zone is good but when it turns to serious discomfort I think it is doing more harm than good. And I’ve explained everything to them, asking for their understanding but my family is very stubborn. They seem ashamed of me. Ashamed that they have a daughter with a mental illness. so they want to fix me right away. I don’t mean to whine or complain. I am grateful that God has brought me this far in my recovery. I have been making progress, at least I’ve been recognizing the progress I’ve made! I went from being home bound to working again and functioning well enough to get by in less than 3 months! To me that seems fantastic and I’m seriously blessed. But I’ve hit a huge bump in the road. I feel so discouraged now. So hopeless. I’m not sure how to bounce back from this. It not only hurts that my family treats me this way, but it makes me also doubt my own progress. That maybe I’m not doing as well as I think. any words of encouragement would be appreciate. Btw my family are non-believers. My boyfriend and I are the only followers of Christ. And luckily at that.. Because he is truly a blessing from God. Patient, kind, loving, I couldn’t ask for more. Love to you all xxxx happy holidays.
9 Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. 10 That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong. Christina Ciro, I am so sorry you’re having such a tough time. First of all – it’ s completely okay to feel the way you do. You don’t have to make excuses, push yourself harder, or feel defeated. It’s fine to feel the way you are feeling. We all know we’re supposed to be strong and keep our head up and move forward. This is true, however, it doesn’t always work this way 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, right? We fall short and that’s to be expected. When I read the above note from you, I don’t doubt your heart for the Lord but I see YOU trying to carry YOUR burden. It’s heavy girl, and you’re not meant to carry it. When we try to pick ourselves up and dust ourselves off, we seem to slip again and then feel so discouraged because we can’t slap ourselves straight. We’re going to fail when we try to battle this in and of ourselves.
Matthew 11:28-30Easy-to-Read Version (ERV)
28 “Come to me all of you who are tired from the heavy burden you have been forced to carry. I will give you rest. 29 Accept my teaching.[a] Learn from me. I am gentle and humble in spirit. And you will be able to get some rest. 30 Yes, the teaching that I ask you to accept is easy. The load I give you to carry is light.” Are you spending time in the Word and in prayer? Sometimes we get so exhausted with anxiety that it’s hard to find the energy to surrender to The Lord in prayer. God hears our on-the-go prayers but I think the deep quiet moments with God heal our hearts and give us strength. God doesn’t need hours of prayer time from us in order to hear us or help us – but it does something to our own souls. I know it’s hard to give a solution or an answer because you have to live this out each and every day and no matter how good we make you feel – it will fade away. You are loved, Christina! You are valuable! This is not forever! You will not suffer like this forever!
1 Peter 5:10New International Version (NIV)
10 And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. There is a call on your life. You were made for such a time as this! The enemy is trying to destroy you and blind you from the beautiful present and future ahead because he knows that you’re a powerful being on this earth. The devil’s goal is to render you useless so your impact is minimal. He has no control over you. He can’t read your thoughts. he doesn’t know your future. He just sees you as a mighty power house and he wants to shut you down. He knows a trigger is fear and so he’ll keep you in this loop so you’re distracted and fearful of the life that God has planted in front of you to live! This goes for all of you ladies in this group! Once I journeyed further into my anxiety I realized how special I was because I was suffering from anxiety and depression. I know it sounds crazy but if you’re suffering – that means you’re doing something right because the devil wants to destroy you! But guess what? Greater is HE that is in US than he that is in the world. The devil is powerless. The only power he has is that which we give to him. Fear is something else… it can smother you. It catches you off guard and can flip your world upside down. But fear is a lie. Our feelings are a lie. Yes, we TRULY feel emotions but what we do with those emotions/feelings is where the power is… We are given power to take our thoughts captive.
2 Corinthians 10:5 New International Version (NIV)
5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
John 16:33New International Version (NIV)
33 “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” I think we often feel defeated because we can get confused by following Christ…. it doesn’t mean we walk around as super humans all the time, it means we have the hope of glory with us at all times. We have the presence of the Holy Spirit with us at all time – the SAME POWER that raised Jesus from the grave lives in us AT ALL TIMES.
― C.S. Lewis, The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe We may not understand… but just like the quote I posted last week from Bill Johnson – in order to experience the peace that passes all understanding, we have to first give up our right to understand. We have to stop trying to make spiritual sense out of these worldy things. They don’t make sense. We have to dig deep into the word and cry out to God with high expectation that He is who He says He is. We have to resolve to believe this no matter the circumstances. No matter.
Hebrews 11:1New International Version (NIV)
Faith in Action
11 Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.- …… Confidence and assurance of what we do not see! Doesn’t that go against everything in our culture???? Jesus is real. He is still into healing and miracles. My heart explodes for you ladies. I believe by the blood of Jesus, you’re going to each start experiencing freedom and we’re going to celebrate you one by one as you walk down the paths of anxiety/depression and enter into complete freedom and victory!
Luke 4:18New International Version (NIV)
18 “The Spirit of the Lord is on me,
because he has anointed me
to proclaim good news to the poor.
He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners
and recovery of sight for the blind,
to set the oppressed free,
Galatians 5:1New International Version (NIV)
Freedom in Christ
5 It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.